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ARE YOU ABUSING YOUR PARTNER OR SPOUSE?
You are in danger of ruining your relationship and your family forever!

Domestic violence leads to that!  You can lose your family–their love, respect AND physical presence, by your choices.
GOOD NEWS!   You CAN make the changes that will improve your relationships…if you really care.

Domestic violence is completely unnecessary and unacceptable! People who hurt people don’t love them…no matter what they say. People who hurt people are people who are hurting. That can be changed!

Put an end to domestic violence in your life and the life of your family now. Classes & counseling at the Optimize Center can dramatically change your life for the better.

ARE YOU BEING ABUSED BY YOUR PARTNER OR SPOUSE?
Here’s how to know that you need help:

• You live feeling afraid of your partner much of the time, like you are walking on eggshells.
• You have lost any self-esteem you ever had, and are in danger of coming to agree that you are worthless. 
• Your partner is excessively jealous and possessive of you.
• You don’t discuss certain things with your partner because they cause explosions.
• Your partner has a bad and unpredictable temper, and it is aimed mostly at you.
• You feel as if you simply cannot do anything right in your partner’s eyes.
• Your partner feels it is his/her right to demand sex at any time.
• You have come to almost believe that you deserve the pain, anger and mistreatment your partner hands out.
• Your partner denies you food, interrupts your sleep and makes unreasonable demands on you too often.
• You used to think your partner had big problems and now you’re wondering if it is you, and your fault.
• You have begun to block out the pain, and deny there is a problem because you feel so helpless in the face of it.
• Your partner breaks things in and around your house to demonstrate power and engender fear.

YOU DON’T HAVE TO LIVE LIKE THIS. GET HELP NOW!

Classes & counseling at the Optimize Center can dramatically change your life for the better.

Our twelve and twenty-six week programs lead you to discover what is possible for improving your relationship, or ending it if necessary…and how to know what to do.  When you get the insights, skills and strategies to live your life together without violence or the threat of violence, you can make a decision about the direction you want to go in your relationship.

All programs include the  Understanding Anger Seminar - Second Saturday of each month at the Optimize Center in Escondido, 2 – 4:15 PM. 

Once you register for the Ending Domestic Violence Classes, be sure to register for the next upcoming  Understanding Anger Seminar.   

Think You’re Alone?  You’re not! 

Read this “Domestic Violence & Sexual Assault Fact Sheet”
from the National Network to End Domestic Violence

You can choose private or couples counseling, too.

Private Counseling – for individuals and couples – with Dr. Rhoberta Shaler – available in person or by Skype